Books can teach you to create a harmonious relationship. Most of us can’t see what our relationships are really like- the good and the bad aspects – objectively, simply because we are IN the relationship. A great book on relationships compels you to better understand yourself and your relationship, and how you and your partner interact within the partnership.
Relationships books are helpful for everyone, even if you are single. Reading these books before getting into a relationship will help attract the right person, and lead to successful, happy, long-term partnership.
Relationship books have been a source of inspiration and learning for me over the years. I would read them no matter what stage my relationships were in; the beginning “butterflies in the belly” phase, the middle complacent years, those painful traumatic breakups, or during long periods of self-induced celibacy.
These books taught me not only what makes me tick and how to realize my potential, but how to truly connect with others. They were a treasure trove of information teaching everything from how to actually date (something scary and foreign for many of us), to deepening relationships and communicating effectively. Relationships are an important factor in our daily lives, something most of us struggle with, yet we all desire to have one. Or, if we’re in one, how to make it better!
Here are our favorite relationship books:
“Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way we Live, Love and Parent” by Brene Brown.
This book is truly life changing and will expand your worldview. If we want to be open and authentic in our relationships with others, we have to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable can be scary, but as you read through this book, you’ll see that it’s not only necessary but liberating. The “heart laid wide open” type of vulnerability that only happens through exploring intimate relationships.
“Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to find the Man You Want and Love You Deserve” by Matthew Hussey
This is a must read book on dating, for single ladies or women in relationships. Want to meet a great guy? Begin with realizing just how valuable you are and act on it. Basically, make yourself as awesome as you can, to attract the caliber of guy you really want! Then get out there and meet him! Mr. Right isn’t going to come along if you keep sticking with the same old pattern that hasn’t worked time after time in the past. There are a lot of amazing men waiting for the opportunity to meet YOU!
“The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.
I love,love,love this book. Can’t recommend it highly enough! A MUST-read for everyone (it sheds a lot of light on what YOU really need in a relationship, as well as opening your eyes to what your partner or potential partner needs). This book explores the five distinct and unique “love languages,” or ways we communicate affection through words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, acts of service or quality time. Each partner in a relationship expresses love in a way that is meaningful and loving to them, but may not be valued or understood by the other. We can create a closer connection by learning our own love language as well as our partners’.
“The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You” by Elaine Aron
This is the relationship book for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Are you easily overwhelmed or stressed? Need more alone time than most? Do you retreat from chaos and loud noise? Do you hear these familiar statements, “You’re making a big deal out of nothing,” or “You need to quit being so sensitive.” Whether you are an HSP or partnered with an HSP, this book will help you learn to be true to yourself and your needs while getting the most out of your intimate relationships.
“Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples 20th Anniversary Edition” by Harville Hendrix
This book is transformational and a worldview changer. Learn how repeating patterns from childhood affect who you you chose as a partner. Lessons in the book will guide you in understanding how the person who seems to have been the worst possible choice in the world was once who you fell in love with. There are also exercises for you to do with your partner, to deepen the relationship even when old patterns are being triggered.
These books combined are as close to the “Relationship Manual” we all wish we had read before we ever started dating!
Books can teach you to create a harmonious relationship.
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way we Live, Love and Parent by Brene Brown.
Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to find the Man You Want and Love You Deserve by Matthew Hussey
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine Aron
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples 20th Anniversary Edition by Harville Hendrix